Zack Saim - Salam Sejahtera Ceria Sentiasa Positive Luar Biasa

  Life Is Really Very Simple. What We Give Out, We Get Back What we think about ourselves becomes the truth for us. I believe that everyone, myself included, is responsible for everything in our lives, the best and the worst. Every thought we think is creating our future. Each one of us creates our experiences through our thoughts and our feelings. The thoughts we think and the words we speak create our experiences. We create the situations, and then we give our power away by blaming the other person for our frustration. No person, no place, and nothing has any power over us, for "we are the only thinkers in our mind. When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives. Which of these statements sounds like you? "People are out to get me." "Everyone is always helpful." Each one of these beliefs will create quite different experiences. What we believe about ourselves and about life becomes true for us. YOU CAN HEAL YOU

We all know people whose default setting is cheerful. It's not We their lives are any better on paper than anyone else. is about their attitude. Indeed it you go to some of the poorest or most war-ravaged places in the world, you'll still be able to find people who are positive despite everything. If they can do it, why can't we? The answer to this is that being positive is not about our circumstances, it's about the way we think. Of course, the most positive people have moments when they don't feel very cheerful, but they still cope better than they would without their positive attitude. I've seen several elderly people lose their husbands or wives after decades of marriage, which is always horribly sad to see, and almost as traumatic for them as anything they could imagine. You would understand if they fell into a deep depression from which they never emerged. Indeed some of them quite understandably do this. It's edifying to see how the rest of them avo

  Our thoughts and our feelings are intrinsically linked If you want to feel good, happy, relaxed, capable, you have to adopt the right patterns of thought to achieve it. This is the basis on which most mental health treatment is based. Yes, there can be medication and other means of support, but most of the help out there is about learning to think in ways that will lead you to feel better. Some people's lives make this a particularly tough process. But all of us will feel better if we think in helpful ways. A lot of this is about habits of thinking and learning the thought patterns that will ensure that day-to-day life is good. The last section focused on the ways of thinking that are essential in building resilience, so that when an emotional trauma comes along and derails us, we can recover faster. This section is about looking after yourself mentally between those big life events, although of course following these Rules will lead to a healthy attitude that can only help at

  Let's try a couple of quiz questions: 1. You have invited several people for a meal. You put lots of effort into cooking a complicated dish. Unfortunately it spends too long in the oven. Its fine, but not as good as you'd planned. Do you think: Who cares? Its the people that matter and they've all had a good time. I should have set a timer. I must practise cooking it before I serve it up again. I'm useless at cooking. I don't know why I bothered. 2. You apply for a new job and you don't get it. Do you think: That's a shame, but I'll find something else. I'll get some feedback and incorporate it into my next application. It's my own fault, I messed up the interview. I'll research the company better next time. I'm just not good enough to do the job. I imagine you can see where I'm going here. If you answered (a), you're pretty resilient and recognise that life doesn't go perfectly every time and

  In the midst of a crisis, you often find that your head is crammed with thoughts, feelings, worries, stress. You can't see where to begin coping because your thoughts are swirling about so fast and erratically that you can't catch them. You're overwhelmed. One of the most helpful things you can do at this point is to get your thoughts out of your head and on to paper. Research has shown that people who are able to do this report that they feel less stressed afterwards - in other words they can rebound faster from the trauma. Part of the problem with coping is that you can't get your thoughts to keep still. But they stay still on paper. Whether you splurge it all out at once, or whether you want to go back and re-order it later, you can stop carrying the thoughts and feelings round in your head once you have them safely recorded elsewhere. You don't have to show them to anyone - that's up to you. Maybe there are things you don't want to forget. You can w